When someone begins to think about leaving their job — or is initially laid off — the first thing they do is frantically search for a new job. As a result, they end up feeling more frustrated, confused, and disillusioned.

Do you blame them? If their head is so clouded from the last job, it's hard to think about the future. And pressure mounts when everyone around them is asking, "What's next?"

When we don't allow ourselves the time and space to introspect and reflect, it's nearly impossible to pinpoint what's actually next.

That's why I suggested to three potential clients last month to take a break — altogether — from the career transition process. They were not in a position to make the needed changes because they had just left the chaos of their last role.

And what was the result? Two of them reported feeling energized and motivated to put in the hard work of making a career change. Even better, one person figured out his next steps without hiring a career coach — because he gained the clarity he needed on his own.

Whether you've just landed somewhere new or you're still in transition: take a break. Here's how:

1. Cease all career research and job applications

Even if it's only for a few days. When you're mentally clear, you make better decisions about the types of jobs to target — and you'll have more energy for the process. If you're financially stretched, you'll also be better prepared to evaluate opportunities and take contract work if needed.

2. Prepare a simple answer for "What's next?"

Try this: "I'm taking some time and space to figure it out. I don't want to make any rash decisions or jump into something that isn't right. When I get some clarity, I'd love your help with networking — would you be open to making introductions?"

3. Give yourself permission to not think about the future

Easier said than done, I know. But when your mind starts wandering, just tell yourself: "With time and space, I will get clarity on my next steps." You'll be amazed at the "aha" moments that come. And if you've already taken time off but spent it filled with anxiety and pressure — that really wasn't time off.

4. Do things you genuinely enjoy

It's okay to watch television or play games, but fill your time with things that light you up. Play is essential when you're changing careers — it reconnects you with what you love, gives you insight into what energizes you, and replenishes the positive energy you'll need to make a real change.

If you give yourself permission to take a break, I'd love to hear what shifted for you.