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Everyone needs a cheerleader, especially when searching for a new job.

career mindset Aug 15, 2015

As many of my readers know, I was bullied as a child. What you may not know is that as I transitioned into a teenager, I became a rebel at my public school, carrying an anti-popular attitude, pushing away anyone who could reject me before I could be rejected. I had several verbal and one physical altercation in school and I knew I needed out (I'm not proud of this).

I decided I needed a clean slate and transfer high schools- moving from a large public school to a small, art-focused, private school. This was one of the best decisions of my life because not only did it give me a new start, I was at a school with like-minded students who were artistic and creative. I also found a faculty and staff that were like a second family who could provide love and encouragement.

Although the transfer was a fantastic choice, I took old wounds with me and there was a vulnerability that lingered  Moreover, my sister who was popular throughout her school years began to struggle in her later teens and needed a lot of support from my parents which meant in many ways I needed to find emotional support elsewhere.

I was thrilled because my sister eventually decided to transfer to my school where she could get the attention and support to flourish as well.

As much as I loved my sister coming to my school, it changed the attention I was receiving by my teachers and peers that made me feel exceptional and unique. My sister has one of the most engaging personalities of anyone I've ever known and people want her to like them and to be her friend. This meant that my teachers and peers were paying attention to her and not as much to me.

My school that became my haven and safe place was still that place, but not mine alone anymore. I had to share it.

There was one person I didn't have to share, my good friend Sherill. She was one of the biggest cheerleaders of my life. Whether she knew it or not, I relied on her for so much emotional support. She would be the person I would ask advice about friends, boys, clothes... anything a teenager could need advice about

I think my favorite part was that she liked me more than my sister and I needed to have someone favor me.

So you might be thinking, what does this story have to do with my career search? My point is, I understand how important a cheerleader is during important times in our lives such as a career change. I even have cheerleaders now as I grow my business as a career counselor. I know that the career search process can be frustrating and painful and there is no better time to have someone cheering you along the way.

It is common for my clients to have a well-intended family member to place pressure on them to put more effort into the process.  As much as that family member means well, it can add more pressure to the person who is already under stress in the first place.

More than anything, as a career seeker, you need to have someone be on your side. To love, accept and support you unconditionally; perhaps to hold you accountable and to provide a listening ear.

As you go through the job search, reach out to your cheerleaders and ask them to support you because it's challenging to do on your own. And if you need to find a cheerleader, I highly suggest you join a job search support group because you can find a buddy to mutually support each other through the process. You can usually find job search support groups in your area through

And if it helps even just a little, just know that I put a prayer out there for those who are in transition asking to provide guidance and direction. You're not alone.

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